My partner doesn’t really do ‘feelings’. His childhood friend’s dad fell off a roof three years ago. He was the dad they all grew up with. He used to drive them from Wales to Bristol so they could go to drum and bass nights when they were teenagers. There had been plenty of parties at his house. He wanted to be buried on their land, in the area where all the welsh rock and slate was. The boys all dug the graves with pick axes, my partner found this very fitting and it was a lovely way for the boys to show their love and express their grief.