For me personally I feel that the idea of really celebrating death and people’s lives that have been lived is only one small possible response to death. For the most part I don’t believe it’s all that possible to be so positive in the face of death. I think it’s so crucial to feel the pain of death and not to try to sugar coat it with memories or overtly grand gestures of remembrance. I feel these can come further down the line, but for me when I hear stories of real celebrations at funerals it feels too abrasive. I think the problem comes when we are not allowed to grieve and we feel the need to cover up emotion.