We had a stillborn baby girl at full term. Our first child.  No experience of being a family.  No rest of family close by.  No help with counselling – it was 1978.  In isolation in the maternity hospital, a nurse said that they “would deal with it”.  We had held her – just to see her face at the birth and then she was whisked away. We could not name her – just register the stillbirth but only at the Registry Office, not at the hospital.  We therefore had no funeral.  Was told to take Epsom Salts to stop the milk coming – and then we went home to grieve.  3 years later I found out that she had been buried. I visited the plot – under a beech tree where children are laid. She is still a black hole in our lives. We had 2 other children – happily.