I felt under pressure when planning my father’s funeral to keep his brother ‘happy’ by going with more elaborate coffin etc. than my dad would have wanted. My uncle (my dad’s brother) was/is a person who wants to impress people and is wealthy. My dad was not like this. I wish I had had the courage to follow my instincts but in the sadness of death it was not possible and I didn’t want to cause trouble in the family.