My experience of death recently has been two dear friends who have lost partners – suddenly without warning, age 50. And two others who have lost babies in still birth. Both cases are similar in terms of the shock of suddenness – and the profound arrival of death within life. It’s been shocking to see how tongue-tied people have been, how incapable of saying anything. They have sometimes offered practical help of assistance, but stumbled over being able to ask or talk about DEATH and what next and grief… etc etc… We have stumbled through funerals of memorials and talked a lot about how much we need to talk about all this MORE!